So frustrated!!!

So I am a teenage girl, and today me and my mother had plans. I woke up early, got ready all for her to cancel at the last minute. Everytime we have had these same plans and I have been the reason they got canceled  she screamed at me for hours and wouldn't talk to me. Now that it's her fault all of a sudden its unreasonable for anyone to be mad about it. I brought up how she has acted in the past and then she started saying it was all my fault becuase I am just to draining and she literally said she wished she could replace me with a better daughter. She also said that if I didn't exist she would be happier and wished that could happen. I am just so frustrated and I feel really unloved. This isn't the first incident I have had with my family. I just dont know what to do.

Last edited on 2019-07-03 at 08:10:16 by BonnieLover

That's a really tough situation. I'd say go see a therapist, but most likely if you're mom is like that she won't pay for you to go. Where's your dad in all this?

My father is just as bad they tag team me, and they put me down its sucky. He has been getting better but my mother doesn't feel she is doing anything wrong. 

Any grandparents you might could talk to? I'm not really sure what to say besides I'm sorry that's happening to you. I was mentally abused by my parents and sister so I moved out as soon as I turned 19 and had the support of my boyfriend at the time who is now my husband. If I would of been educated and knew what I know now I would of went to court and got a hardship at 16 and moved out then on my own working for my uncle. He would of paid me more to get a house on his golf course and made sure I had enough money to support myself as long as I worked for him full time. So having resources helps and thinking outside the box. It's hard when you have a toxic family.

_{Yeah my moms side bad my uncle is a drug dealer and my grandma is an alcoholic. My dad's parents help me a lot but my mom hates them so she tries to sabotage me seeing them. Toxic family really is hard,  i may also be able to get a job at 16 where i could stay at the stables in a nice little trailer. My grandparents are giving me a car so if I got emancipated at 16 I think I could be alright. If anything my grandparents would take care of me for sure. My grandma has come pick me up a few times when they tried to kick me out.} 

So that's good you have some people then.

I wish I could help you Bonnie!!! *hugs* Hang in there; it'll get better, especially if you have your grandparents on your side!

@feather thank you ^.^ I appreciate the kind words I am sure it will get better 

Things will turn up. Just hang in there dude. You can message me if you ever need to talk. I might not be of much help, but I'm here if you ever end up not having anyone else, alright?

Last edited on 2019-07-03 at 14:30:21 by Raptor 🦞

@Raptor thank you so much! I will keep that in mind!

I know this is probs too late of me to reply to this but I am gonna reply to it anyway. First off I am so sorry to hear about this, I know because my parents are the same way with me and my boyfriend and its really annoying and it makes me mad! If you ever need someone to talk to about this or about anything please feel free to message me! I am here for ya girl!! ♥ ♥

Thank you!!!! Its appreciated!

I’m so sorry, this has been happening to you. 

Thank you! I wish I could say it's gotten better

Thank you! I wish I could say it's gotten better